Compassion despiste the implants

Compassion I don't know if I have mentioned this before, but when Chance was first diagnosed as being deaf, I checked out a book  from the library about deafness with something like this on the cover:"An unbiased look at the different modes of communication for deaf children."  It was perfect!  That is just what I needed to read at the time, an unbiased look at modes of communication.
After actually reading the book here is a brief synopsis:

Deaf children who learn to sign for their primary mode of communication are thoughtful, well-behaved, well adapted and loved by teachers and parents alike. They are also happy capable adults who are at peace with themselves.

Deaf children who use talking as their main mode of communication are rude, unruly, undisciplined,  disruptive in the classroom and my favorite:  unable to have compassion for others. As they grow older, they are conflicted and unable to feel a part of either the signing world since they grew up talking and unaccepted fully by the hearing world.

As you can see, it was a well rounded unbiased book giving equal credit to each mode of communication:)

"Thanks for the lift, bro !"
Chance carries his brother in Disneyland.

Every once in a while something happens with Chance that  makes me think about the part of the book that said,"unable to have compassion for others." Something that totally refutes the statement made in that book.

While at parent teacher conferences this week,  one of Chance's teachers said that one of Chance's friends at school is picked on by other kids and that Chance sticks up for him. She said that the boy never looks happier than when he is with Chance.

She said,"You would think that Chance might be one the kids make fun of since he has implants, and  he has things like when one of the kids took his implants(see above post), but his friend is picked on regularly and Chance sticks up for him.  Chance is not shy about sticking up for him."

This friend of Chance's is such a cute boy and he has been a good friend to Chance helping Chance last year when Chance struggled with all of the changes the school kept making to the schedules, and the teachers etc.

We have been told regularly through the years that Chance sticks up for and makes sure that kids who are picked on or can not participate are included in activities.

In my view having compassion and treating other people with respect are vitally important traits that I want my children to have.  I think that despite the fact that we encouraged Chance to talk as his main mode of communication he managed to find compassion for others anyway. We have also never been told that he is unruly in the classroom, undisciplined, or rude.  A freak accident, or do we need to get that book off of the library shelves before any more  new parents of deaf kids have the unpleasant experience of reading it?:)